Today I have decided to write for my sisters, am not writing this because I know it all, or I have experienced it myself, but this is just what I have studied. I have heard several ladies talk about meeting one’s Boaz, and as a result I decided to study the book of Ruth. The following are just the highlights of what I discovered; it’s open for discussion in the comments as well as additional insights.
The story of Ruth is in the Bible, the book of Ruth which has four chapters only; if you haven’t heard this story you could go through it, so that it may be relevant for you. As Ruth left her homeland she had lost her husband, father in law and brother in law. In this I just want to encourage, all those who could have gone through hard times, in their love lives, whether it’s a broken relationship, divorce, widowed, separation etc. Just know there’s hope for you, the past is gone and at times it’s impossible to mend what has already happened, but there is no limitation on what the future could offer you. If you trust your God your future is still bright.
As Naomi, Ruth’s mother in law asked her and her sister in law to go back to their family, Ruth chose not to. This shows that she had known her mother’s God, the Moabites didn’t believe in the same God as the Israelites, but Ruth said she would want that God, to be hers too. I believe knowing God is very important, at all stages in life and for us who are single, I believe He gives convictions that go beyond human understanding. I have seen ladies get married to some young men, that even the parents struggle to approve, but later on people look at the couple and say, surely this was God’s will. However, I’d want to remind you that the heart is very deceiving, so you have to be in close relationship with God to know His voice, and differentiate with other voices.
When Ruth went to Bethlehem with her mother, she decided to go and look for food. In the process she found herself in the farm of a rich man called Boaz, who was also one of her kinsmen. I call this divine connection, as Ruth continued with her work, God directed her to the right farm and because of her faith, and although the Israelites and Moabites never interacted she is found in the lineage of Jesus Christ. As Ruth worked Boaz came to the farm and noticed her, and it’s surprising that as he talked to her, he had already gathered a lot of information about her before. My encouragement to us singles is we keep doing what we know how to do. Don’t sit in the house and keep praying for the man to come over, get busy doing something, and I believe divine connections will come along. At times we also keep waiting for this prince charming, to just drop from heaven and come transform your life, but as I read this story I have realized that the man you’re dreaming about, could already be in your life, it’s only that he’s not yet revealed as your Boaz yet.
Something else I noted is that Boaz told his men servants to take care of Ruth, and to even leave some extra wheat for her to collect. With this I learned that, the man meant for you will protect you. He will not want to mess around with your life; he will respect your principles and want the best for you. He will encourage you in living your lives purpose, and he will also be living his life purpose. He will not just be lazing around, but he’ll be working and, he will be someone you can look up to when it comes to life issues.
When Ruth went home she talked to Naomi about all that had happened during the day. Naomi then advised her on what to do to. With this I see the importance of mentor-ship. There is always someone, who has gone through what you are looking forward to, and if they are good, they will advise you and tell you mistakes they did, for you to avoid them, and also tell you what they did, and they succeeded for you to go that way too. However with this I’d want to remind you that everyone’s life is different, what worked for your mum, aunt or anyone else may not be what would work for you best. So just be wise to choose what could work for you, because I believe by now you already know yourself, and if not you better get some time alone, and have a meeting with yourself.
Ruth was told to be clean and dress well as she went to meet Boaz, on this I realized that you just got to look smart, and like they say you are addressed the way you are dressed. You might not have the best clothes or shoes but you can wash them and iron them and look good. You also got to dress modestly to ensure you get the respect you deserve. When you know you are well dressed, even if you aren’t in the latest fashion you just have some confidence. Exercise, eat well and just take care of yourself. If you can’t take care of yourself, how would you expect God, to entrust you with a man and children?
It’s also important to know the culture of your people as well as that of your Boaz. Ruth had to be told by Naomi the steps to take to reach Boaz. Therefore don’t ignore culture, even if you are a Christian because it counts a lot. Well guess I’ll finish up there for today, leave your comments and share widely. With love.